Friday, December 23, 2005

Ground Rules

If you found your way here (and thank you for coming), you know by now that the last few weeks have brought unwelcome news and that Zach and I are facing another go-round with breast cancer. If you were with us the first time through, in 2001, you know that we are tackling this as we do everything else in life: steadfastly together, with relentless optimism, stubborn determination, and genuine good humor. We'll get through this, sucky as it may be, and even have some fun along the way. (Yes, you read that right.)

We started this blog for two reasons: to keep ourselves sane and to give fine folks like you (aka our cherished family and friends) an easy way to keep tabs on us over the months to come. One thing we learned the last time around was that it was sometimes a challenge to stay current with everyone and to return calls and reply to e-mail messages as promptly as we'd have liked. This is not a subtle hint that you shouldn't call or write—you should (only if you want to, of course). It's just a pre-emptive assurance that not hearing back from us right away carries no deeper meaning.

Most of you know that I returned to school full-time in August and am scheduled to graduate in May from Columbia University's Graduate School of Journalism. It's an intensive program, which is why I have been somewhat incommunicado for the past several months, but I am hoping to remain on track and finish on time. That will likely make it especially difficult to stay in touch over the course of the spring semester, but I am hoping that this blog will help.

To start things off, here are a few ground rules:
  1. As with last time, this is not a secret. If sharing this blog or telling someone about our experience will bring aid or comfort, share and tell away.

  2. Don't walk on eggshells around us. We're OK—really—and don't want to be treated any differently than before.

  3. Jokes are welcome. Bald jokes will be especially welcome pretty soon. Keep 'em coming.

  4. There's really nothing you can do, but if something comes up, we promise to let you know right away. (Of course, my mom pretty much has dibs on this one.)

  5. You can be funny, profane, outraged, outrageous, cheeky, or charming, but please—whatever you do—do not be maudlin.

  6. Please leave comments—it's one great way for us to stay connected.

  7. We reserve the right to add more rules at any time.

Thanks so much for stopping by. Come back anytime.




Anonymous bob borton said...

Jody and Zach - love and best wishes to you both. I'm sorry to hear the cancer news, Jody, but happy anyway to get your good email. I've been thinking about you and about the hard work of grad. school, though not with the added challenge you report here. We are missing you here at this branch of your families (Heller family).
If I was a believer, I'd probably assume that god or God was piling on Jody, just so that she or he could demonstrate just how to live this wonderful life, even when the hardest times come along, or especially when they do. As it is, I just welcome hearing from you, and getting a reminder of how to look at things with the sort of excitement and fearless determination that you always show.
All of us send you both our love and best wishes. I hope the treatments that I gather are already underway go well - if there is anything you can think of that we could do to support from here, just let us know.
We are particularly missing you at the moment because we are at the front end of another Trial Training season, and realixing just how much we need you organizing/planning gene to be implanted in one or all of us. We'll be in NYC, by the way, in early April and I hope to catch up then with you and Zach. Maybe you can come in and look the thing over to audit how we're doing.
Thanks again for the news, good and bad, Jody. Love and holiday wishes to the family. Bob Borton

December 27, 2005 11:22 AM  
Blogger Regina Smith said...

Jody - I'm deeply sorry for the unwelcome news. I'm shocked too because I witnessed your recovery and how well you handled everything. I never dreampt that it would come back. I shouldn't be surprised though, I know that beast doesn't know a good person when it meets one. Fight on, trooper! Love, Regina Smith.

December 27, 2005 7:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


Just like before I admire your strong will to fight...

Kick ass my friend!!!!

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.


December 29, 2005 1:11 PM  
Anonymous Kris (& Bill) said...

Thinking about how you've hit the time when you "can't eat after midnight." I'll be dreaming away, as will you, at 8 a.m. Wednesday. Grab some zzzz's in the afternoon (and before you go home, ask for some of that anti-nausea medicine--the heavy duty stuff). Zach--we haven't forgotten how big a role you play--in every aspect of your shared lives.

January 3, 2006 9:40 PM  

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